Hello Everyone,
I am currently reading this book (We Snap in Silence by Lavender S. Williams) What do you think about this statement?:--
"Once wives realize husbands are incapable of fulfilling and meeting all our needs, we will be more content in our marriages."
Question: Do you agree or disagree with this statement? What are your thoughts? Please feel free to reply according to your status and role in your relationship. I am looking forward to hearing your responses.
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Hi Tanyetta!
Thanks a bunch for stopping by "My Heart Speaks..." and leaving a comment! It has lead me here to your blogs.
I agree with this statement because no one is perfect except God. Also, if we can admit that we are not capable of meeting all needs of our spouse, then it will be easier for us to accept that they can't fulfill ours and maybe, just maybe, we wouldn't be so hard on them!
smooches,
Larie
I agree with the statement too. Our husband's can't fulfill all our needs just as we cannot fulfill all of theirs. Not that we have to stand up for things that are against what we believe but some things we are going to have to just 'let go'. This is a very true statement but not everyone is ready to believe it.
I agree with the statement too. Our husband's can't fulfill all our needs just as we cannot fulfill all of theirs. Not that we have to stand up for things that are against what we believe but some things we are going to have to just 'let go'. This is a very true statement but not everyone is ready to believe it.
MORE content? MORE?!! How about will learn in the first place how to find contentment in finding that truth as unchangable- That's a hard one! -And where God awaits us ") Even when God created us he knew we would want a partner-(Eve) So it can be tough to discover gaps that
arent' "filled"...and wise to recall and "bathe" in the gaps that are filled- (All the reasons we fell in love and chose to marry them in the first place!)
"Once wives realize husbands are incapable of fulfilling and meeting all our needs, we will be more content in our marriages."
I do not agree with the statement. The part that gets me is that our husbands are "incapable", I do not believe that about my husband, he is very capable of doing anything, just as long as he wants to do it and has the desire to do it. As do I. As a wife, I need to fully communicate my needs to him and make him aware of the level of importance it is to me. We also need to realize the difference between a WANT and a NEED. Yes I want him to take his shoes off before he enters the house, but that is not a need. I need him to support my goals in life, that's a real need. Although I do agree that no one can meet ALL of our needs, nor should we expect our husbands to meet ALL of them, we also need to fulfill our own needs too and realize that we can't fulfill all of them either. I think a statement like that is degrading to husbands, it's disrespectful and I do not believe it would bring more content in my marriage to think that way about my husband.
So interesting. I disagree with the statement. I don't think that "most" wives have unreasonable needs. I feel that most women just want the basics covered. Every man worthy of being a husband should be able to cover those, right? Right. And everything else falls under him wanting to make her happy.
ITA agree with this statement. Man will always fail us, God won't. Husbands can't possibly fulfill our every need...its impossible. They certainly can't fill a hole in our hearts caused by our earthly father for example, only the Heavenly Father can. They can't read our minds every second of the day, shoot, we don't even know what's wrong with us every second of the day to TELL them what to do about it (speaking as a 9 month pregnant woman here..lol)...so no, man will always fail us, God will not.
I think when you are looking from a more spiritual level, rather than just a physical level, you can see the need for more than just your husband. We are not responsible for our own fulfillment..that is the job for not just any man..Jesus is the only one that can fill us up in that way.
I need to get that book and see what she's talking 'bout!
That statement seems like it's saying just be happy and settle with what you've got. I'm not sure I agree with it. While none of us are perfect, both mates should at least strive to meet each other's needs. In my opinion, that's what makes a good marriage.
TANYETTA... I agree with this statement. But it goes back to what you said when you were here visiting NJ... People do what they want to do and make time for what they want to. Everyone has the ability to find out what their spouses wants, now whether we are willing to go the extra mile to do it, is another subject.
Once we're willing to accept that our spouses are a certain way, I guess it eases us a bit as we are not bickering with them all the time. Now we have a choice.. Do we want to settle or do we want to take our chances and try and find everything that we "THINK" we want in another relationship.
My opinion, as long as your spouse is not verbally or physically abusing you, be content. The grass is not always greener. Also, we need to take a look at ourselves and what we are doing. That may be a big factor in how our spouses treat us.
I disagree with the statement. I love my husband to death and I did not marry him because I needed him.... I married him because I wanted him, flaws and all. To give an example, my husband cannot cook... AT ALL!! I came home from work yesterday and he made dinner for me and our son. The food was not half bad, but what made me eat it with love was the fact this was a need I always wanted him to fulfill and while he is not able to deliver due to a lack of culinary skills, the fact that he tried just makes me love him that much more. While a husband cannot satisfy EVERY need of his wife, the fact they are willing to do what it takes to make a marriage work means much more than having every need satified. I married for love and security, knowing that my husband may not be able to give me everything I require, but knowing that the time I need him the most, he would always be there for me for better or worse. I look at our marriage for what he has done, not what he can or can't do.... Almost 13 years... one child and two step-children later :-)
I believe that statement in many ways to be TRUE as well. I am in a successful marraige. When I went into my second marraige; we women, wives, or whatever you choose to classify yourself as, place to much expectation on the other person. We are not perfect nor our spouses. Therefore, I always say when someone say to me, "You have a perfect marraige." I respond, "Yes I do. He is exactly what I expect him to be to and for me." I need my everything to come from my God! not man. I am a strong woman who knows the difference. People place too much expectations on others, without realizing Jesus and Jesus only represents perfection and will give us whatever we need! I seek Jesus for everything not man! ~Anji
You would think that wives would be content after they realize that they're husbands can't fufill their every need.....HOWEVER that would be too darn easy for us men! What did Chris Rock say? "Women will NEVER be happy"! Its ok...thats how women are put together. But i will say that i wish women would stop projecting what they want onto their men!! We do not think the same way you do! We don't need stuff,excessive conversation, etc. Food on the table and a nice adult beverage is all i need!!
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