I've been reading quite a few blogs, on-line journals, baby center discussion boards (yikes) about babies and schedules and breastfeeding and staying at home versus putting your kid in a daycare to allow someone else to care for your kid while you make a dollar out of 15 cents, co-sleeping and....well you see where i'm going with this right???? Sheer Madness!!!!
AREUKIDDINGMERIGHTNOW??????????
My son has been recently climbing out of his crib, I got a bunch of useless advice to get him a 'big boy' bed, what did I do?got it and guess what!!!!...He jumps up and down on his 'big boy' bed, yes people he winds up in the bed with us OR sleeping on the floor with cheerios in his hair, throws food off his high chair, screams because I keep offering him milk in his sippy cup, that really pisses him off because he gets a nice swig and then WHAM he spews it out his mouth with the quickness.
He has learned the art of the words..NO.NO.NO.NO..MINE.MINE.MINE.NO.NO.NO.
He says it repeatedly to everything. About EVERYTHING!!!!! People tell me he will outgrow it. Is that the universal answer to everything that your kid does that you feel you have no control over?????
Well.....What does this have to do with anything???? Nothing~ I just felt like VENTING (crying out for help)...
I (USED TO) have a friend NOTICE I SAID USED TO!!! I HAD TO DROP HER LIKE A BAD HABIT. SHE WAS EXHAUSTING ME!!!! she always non chalantly found a way to bring up the fact that her son eats, sleeps, plays, lives, breathes on schedule. We would go to the park, mall, or walmart (gasp, sorry GGC) and she would STOP the world to rush and get her son down for a nap! She would say....Oh my gosh what time is it? I gotta go, it's his nap time!!! Yup, we're in the middle of eating, playing whatever and she would be OUT!!!!!! It happened one too many times and I said look enough is enough!!!!!
Classic Conversation-It was the first time I ever met her. I should have KNOWN then that she was to be avoided at all costs!
HER: my son sleeps 8-8
ME: that's nice (B*TCH)
HER: what's your son's schedule?
ME: my son sleeps from 8-8 too !!! (total lie but...it sounds so much better than the truth)
THE TRUTH: whenever he crashes and burns! I'm telling you this kid goes from 7am to 7pm. We've tried CIO and he changed the name of that game and you know what else??? He runs the entire house! Yup, he says he doesn't want corn for dinner then it's NO corn for dinner!
The best part is...I'm ok with that. I'm not trying to win the perfect mommy award. SHE can have it...---
AND THE BEST MOMMY AWARD GOES TO..Drum Roll Please!!!..WHOTHEHELLCARES!!!!!!!!
There, I feel better now!
10 comments:
Vent away! That's what these things are for, no? Here's to real life non-schedules, a head full of cheerios and, from the looks of the (adorable!) photos below: a very happy little guy. <*hugs*>
I'm not big on rigid schedules or parenting books although a little structure helps around here. You've raised one successfully; it's not like you're a novice.
Has it occurred to you that your "friend" might be exaggerating just a wee bit?
Ann
Go on, girl.
:-)
I was a schedule NUT with my first, and drove myself crazy. Mine still never slept 8 - 8. And I hated the moms who would brag that their kids were perfectly "trained". Bleh!
With my 2nd, I'm much more relaxed on the schedule. Seems I'm happier, the baby's happier, her brother's happier, hubby's happier.... You get the picture.
Do what's best for you and your family. Eff anyone who would EVER make you feel badly for doing what word for you!
I love reading your blog Tanyetta because you and I have very similar parenting styles! ;-) My son rules the roost as well and as for sleeping 8-8.. I should be so lucky!!! I read lots of stuff that makes me feel like a bad Mum but my son is happy, healthy and always grinning and DJ looks like he is very similar so I guess we must be doing something right! ;-)
I totally feel you girl! Who cares you just do the best you can with your kid, and if it works for you who's business is it anyway? vent away.
When people get all competitive w/ me (my baby walked at nine months, my two year old is bilingual, etc.) I just say, "Wow. Congratulations. I guess that means you win." It usually shuts them up at least for that conversation.
This isn't the same clueless git who suggested you cut that baby's beautiful hair is it? B/c seriously, I'd remove her from my friend pool ASAP. ;)
We went through the same thing with the big boy bed. He started climbing out, so we bought him a bed, and now, every night without fail, he's in our room in our bed.
yeah, we mothers all do something wrong!
I read a blog which is a kind of nice blog, but seriously the mom acts like nothing but pure gold goes into her and her child's mouth, they eat so perfectly, and everything is all perfect all the time. never any mention of a father in her childs life, maybe he is and maybe he isn't, and i would never ask.
So sometimes people choose to expose their successes and hide the flaws. and we all have them ( but i take the 5th on that one :) )
ALERT!!!That ex-mommy friend of yours probably had undies that were way too tight. I can assure you she was lying half the time. Good ridance! I was never a strict schedule woman. I take it as it goes. Yes it's good to have some sort of scheduled to prevent chaos but let's get real here.
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