Today after Tiny Tots, I struck up a convo with one of the moms. She said she's thinking of taking her son out of Tiny Tots. I said, WHY???????
She said my son freaks out every time I leave. I can't leave him there. He will freak out. She said, I didn't sign him up to stay here with him. I said well, why don't you just leave. He'll be ok won't he?
She said, oh no!!! he will totally freak out. He is stuck to me. He is very clingy.
She said I noticed your son cries when you leave but, as soon as you hit the door, I have to tell you, he immediately stops.
I said, yes, he's a faker like that. He likes to make me feel wanted. You know, cry, fall out on the ground beg for me to stay, and as soon as I'm out of ear shot, he's on to the fun.
She laughed and said, yes that's exactly what happens I noticed that.
She said she wishes her son was outgoing like mine.
Well..............this is where the HUH???????? comes in.
I've never dealt with a 'clingy or calm or mild tempered' kid so, I wouldn't know about the issues of it but, I know that I have dreamt of the day that my son would just CHILL!!!!!!!! Sit down somewhere and just chill out.
I guess this goes to show you, if you have a calm kid, you'll wish for them to be more outgoing and if you have an outgoing energetic kid, you'll wish for them to just chill out sometimes. I could be wrong. I am just happy I was blessed with this kid. He is too funny!
And here I was worried that he cried bloody murder when I left and he was just playing me! LOL
Question: Do your kids cry when you leave them at preschool? What tips do you have for dealing with this?
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Connor starts preschool in July, so I'll have to wait and see what he's like. But I remember the first time I left him in the daycare at the gym, he cried for the entire hour, all five days that week. It was hard to walk away while he was crying, but I realized that it would get better eventually. After the first week he was running to the door. For me, consisitency works.
My kids cry when I leave and maybe I'm cruel, but I just keep on walking. I know they will be okay, and like DJ, they often stop soon after I leave if not before the dust settles behind me. I worked in a daycare in high school and new kids always cried for about a week or two, like Shelliza's kid, but they always got over it, so I always encourage moms to leave the kids and trust they will be okay.
my older son (15.5yo) used to act up a little when I dropped him off until he started making friends in daycare/preschool.
i was like..oh well. buck up lil ni99a..i won't be around forever. i guess thats teh difference between maybe a mommy and a daddy.
My kids used to cry when I left to get my hair done, now they wave bye because they know I'll be back. They do occasionally scream when we go to certain places, so we trust what they feel and just don't take them there. If my children don't want to be a certain place or around certain folks then we don't make them. . . .I guess that's why I'm a SAHM.
only my youngest cried. (used to, big boys now) And by the time it got to him (4th one, I mind you), it did not bother me at all. did I say that? really though, I knew all of the tricks by then, I knew he would relax and have fun when I left - just like your big guy. SO I promised myself to never let him affect me. I would just leave quick. Never sneak out, I hate that, but say bye, see you in a little bit, and leave, never gave into the crying.
He quickly learned. ANd now he's my quietest, best playing by himself kid! who would've known!
Girl, my "kids" are so far past that age...and I thank God for it!
But I can tell you that when I worked in head start a lot of the kids would start crying when the parents were heading for the door, of course this promptes them to stay longer (not good for the teachers who are trying to gain control) but usually once the parents leave the kids start playing with other kids and are fine!
Two things I would suggest to parents of young children...
#1 - Never try to sneak out(parents do this a lot!), the child feels abandoned, just talk to them about you going to do whatever but that you will return for them when you are done. ~AND~
#2 - Please do not hang around watching your child, they will never get used to being without you or gain the sense of independence that you want them to learn if you stay there hovering over them, say your good byes, give them a few kisses and then LEAVE!
Don't worry your baby will be fine for a little while without you!!
Blessings, from a Head Start Survivor!!
When I leave my daughter in the community center for two classes a week she's fine. However, she knows I'm there waiting outside in the courtyard. That could make the difference.
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